Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

This is love and abuse, as the intro has told you.

Thank you for joining me today.

I have an interesting perspective today.

It's from the emotional abuser that has healed or is still going through their healing.

And they wrote to me and said they have reached out to their ex and wrote them a letter.

They took all responsibility. They said, I had a bunch of issues and I know I did I'm in therapy and I realize that we may not see each other again and that's fine if that's what you want but I wanted to at least apologize

and let you know that these are all the things I did and I know I did them and it is 100% all me.

You know, they took responsibility for it, which is great.

At the same time, it's going to be difficult.

And this is my reply to this person who did ask a question.

I'll let you know the question in a moment. But it's going to be difficult for someone who has hurt another person,

maybe for a period of years, for that person to be receptive to anything after the relationship is over.

So if someone has been hurtful to you for years and you finally get out of that relationship,

you realize you need to protect yourself, you realize you deserve more,

you don't deserve this abuse or punishment or whatever it is yourself, you realize you deserve more, or you don't deserve this abuse

or punishment or whatever it is happening.

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