Well, we all think it's important to have a healthy self-esteem, and schools are all about that.

I've said this before, but I drove by a school some time ago.

It had a banner outside on the building, and it basically said where every child wins.

And I thought, I'm not sure that that's really how life is going to treat them once they leave your humble little school.

Sometimes our kids might focus a little bit too much on how they feel about themselves.

We'll explain why that might be a bad thing.

I'm John Fuller here with Dr. Danny Werta, who leads the focus on the family parenting team.

Danny, you're a professional counselor and you've worked with clients.

From your expertise and experience, if we focus too much on self-esteem, what can be some

negative consequences or outcomes? Yeah, it's really demanding that the world treat me a certain

way so I feel good about myself. And it's very much about a self-centered perspective.

It begins to form that in a child, that there's a right to me being happy. There's a right to me

feeling good about who I am. And it's about my own feelings and the need to feel loved all the time

and affirmed all the time.

And it was a huge mistake that we had there in the 70s, 80s, 90s of highlighting self-esteem instead of self-confidence.

Self-esteem created a perspective that it was all about me. And if we look at Colossians 312, I love this.

It says, put on then as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved compassion, kindness,

humility, meekness, and patience bearing with one another.

It's about the other person.

Everything we're putting on is about how we treat somebody else and how we make the experience better for the other when they're with us.

And this is about how can your presence in my life make me feel better about me?

And if you make me feel badly about me, then I don't want to talk to you.

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