When Old Trauma Spills Into New Relationships

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 14 May 2024

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She’s wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships! Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses…. And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal! When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up — but that is also the best opportunity to begin the work of healing. We talk through what that looks like and exactly how to do it in today’s episode! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:32.4	Just trying to tolerate the untolerable just to survive.
0:39.6	And what my response, instead of doing healing work,
0:44.4	was to do outward, distractive behavior.
0:48.1	And the world would see as good,
0:50.3	but it really did not get to the root of where the hurt was.
0:55.2	So I would train excessively and run a marathon, you know, just continue my education and do things that, again, on the periphery look very appealing.
1:10.1	But I did not do the heart work because it is so hard and so
1:14.2	painful. And I regret that because I feel like there's a lot of years that I missed.
1:26.5	Are you ready to talk to me?
1:28.7	My name is Deborah Felida and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.
1:34.9	Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.
1:44.1	The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic, spiritually, and relationally.
1:44.3	The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic counseling-style sessions where
1:50.7	we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests and callers an opportunity
1:56.0	to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor.
1:59.9	Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all
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