When you and your spouse were dating, there was probably a point where it was fun, but then you were thinking, well, there might be something more here.

I'm John Fuller, along with Greg and Aaron Smalley from the Focus on the Family Marriage Department.

And Greg, did you have that tipping point? Oh,

you're shaking your head. Yes, definitely. Yeah, two things stand out in my mind as I think back

to that season. Number one is that I really started to imagine a future with Aaron. As a matter

fact, I had a mentor. Um, he's been a popular guest on, you know,

much of what we've done here at Focus, Dr. John Trent. And I'd asked John, you know, how did

you know his wife, Cindy? How did you know that you wanted to marry Cindy? How do I know if this is,

you know, if I should marry Aaron? And he said, you know, just imagine this. And so he made

me close my eyes. And he goes, imagine you're, you know, 80 years old. You're on a porch.

You're in a rocking chair. You're watching your kids, your grandkids, your great grandkids,

all play. And then you look to your right. And there

you see the person rocking in that chair next to you. Does it cause you pain if that person

isn't Aaron? And I kind of went, yes, I don't want to imagine a life with that. I want that person to be Aaron.

So a part of it is just going, not only can I see a future with her, the absence of her in that possible future would have caused me tremendous amount of pain.

So I think that's one.

The other one that really stands out is I began to ask people who knew us, who did, that I trusted

to say, what do you think about her in our relationship? And any concerns, any red flags?

Do you think we, we strengthen each other, make each other better? What do you think? And just got a

lot of feedback. And in everybody that I talked to was like, man, she's the one.

I'm telling you, you guys are great together.

Because if someone would have then raised a red flag,

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