When Children Seem Troubled by Our Emotions and Moods

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 6 January 2022

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

A parent writes that she and her husband are concerned their toddler feels responsible for their emotions. This is a trait they both recognize from their own backgrounds. “He asks again and again, ‘Happy, mommy?’ as if he’s trying to help me be happy.” This mom says that if she admits that, no, she is not entirely happy at the moment, he gives her hugs and cuddles and persists in asking if she's happy. While these parents want to foster their child’s empathy and sensitivity, they don’t want him taking on the burden of other people’s emotions. They’re hoping Janet has some advice to help manage this delicate balancing act. Thanks again to Ritual Vitamins for supporting this podcast. Turn healthy habits into a Ritual today and get 10% off your first 3 months by visiting www.ritual.com/respect. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books. Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com). Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Janet Landsbury, welcome to Unruffold.
0:05.0	So today I'm going to be responding to a question from a parent who is concerned that her
0:11.4	son may be feeling responsible for her inter-husband's emotions.
0:17.2	She wants to relieve him of that pressure and also encourage empathy.
0:22.7	And while I'm going to be speaking to the specifics in this situation, there are several
0:28.1	themes that come up through this family's letter that apply to so many of us as parents.
0:35.0	And I'm thinking I'm hoping that there will be themes in this podcast for everybody to
0:40.2	relate to.
0:41.7	Before I begin...
0:44.7	Okay, here's the email I received.
0:50.5	Hi, Janet.
0:51.5	My husband and I have been following your podcast and blog since our son was about three
0:55.1	months old.
0:56.1	He's now 28 months.
0:58.5	While we have definitely had our challenges, pandemic not included, I can't imagine any other
1:03.6	way to parent him.
1:04.6	He's blossomed into an extremely sensitive, smart, and sweet toddler.
1:08.7	I've had so many beautiful successes with him that I can credit specifically to learnings
1:14.5	from you.
1:15.5	I've tried my best to be as honest as possible, appropriately for his age, about what
1:20.8	I am feeling and supporting and validating his own experience of emotions.
1:26.4	Recently, the past two or three months, now that he has the language skills to express,
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