When a Relationship with a Colleague Goes Sour

Women at Work

Harvard Business Review

Hbr, Entrepreneurship, Business/management, Careers, Progress, Harvard, Business/entrepreneurship, Workplace, Human, Management, Resources, Gender, Women, Business, Business/careers, Equality

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🗓️ 16 May 2022

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

How do you address a falling-out with a teammate when they either won’t acknowledge you or just lash out? Amy Gallo brings her conflict management expertise to a coaching session for a woman whose project manager and former work friend went from helpful to hostile. The approaches that come out of the conversation are ones that anyone facing tension in a work relationship can use to find a way forward.

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0:00.0	Once your business gets to a certain size, the cracks start to emerge.
0:05.0	Things you used to do in a day take a week.
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0:27.0	You're listening to Women at Work from Harvard Business Review.
0:31.0	I'm Amy Gallow.
0:33.0	Have you ever had a relationship with a colleague or a sour?
0:37.0	Like someone on your team who'd been friendly turns on you
0:40.0	and is now making your life miserable and collaboration impossible?
0:44.0	Maybe they won't respond to your emails or even look you in the eye.
0:48.0	That's the distressing situation a listener of another podcast
0:52.0	Women Amplified was in.
0:54.0	The show's host Celeste Headley invited me on to give the listener Cindy advice.
0:59.0	Cindy wanted to figure out what the conflict was about,
1:03.0	which was especially challenging to do since her colleague had stonewalt her.
1:07.0	And she wanted to know how to continue working with someone who was being so difficult.
1:12.0	I felt particularly ready to talk through Cindy's situation
1:15.0	since this is the kind of interpersonal issue that's the focus of my upcoming book getting along.
1:22.0	As you'll hear not all of my advice was spot on Cindy understandably
1:26.0	did not like the idea that she might want to flatter her coworker to win her back over.
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