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Afford Anything

What You Think You Want vs. What You Really Want, with Luke Burgis

Afford Anything

Paula Pant | Cumulus Podcast Network

Entrepreneurship, Business, Investing

4.63.4K Ratings

🗓️ 1 September 2021

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

#335: Have you ever spent years studying the wrong major, climbing the ladder at the wrong company, chasing the wrong career? Have you spent years living in the wrong city? Wrong relationship? Wrong lifestyle? It’s hard to discern what *we think we want* from what we really want. Society teaches us what we’re “supposed” to want. And we follow along. The result is keeping up with the Joneses. It’s the hedonic treadmill. It’s lifestyle inflation. And it causes conflict, both within ourselves and with others. Today’s guest, Luke Burgis, discusses mimetic desire — how our “wants” are imitative — and how we can find our deeper truths. For more information, visit the show notes at https://affordanything.com/episode335 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

You can afford anything but not everything.

0:11.0

Every choice that you make is a trade-off against something else.

0:14.3

And that doesn't just apply to your money, that applies to your time, your focus, your

0:18.3

energy, your attention to any limited resource that you need to manage.

0:22.8

And that opens up two questions.

0:24.4

First, what matters most.

0:26.6

Second, how do you make decisions that reflect?

0:29.9

That which matters most.

0:31.8

Answering those two questions is a lifetime practice.

0:35.0

And that's what this podcast is here to explore and facilitate.

0:39.4

My name is Paula Pat.

0:40.4

I am the host of the Afford Anything Podcast.

0:43.0

And how do you know if what you think you want is what you actually want?

0:50.1

You know how sometimes you can spend years pursuing the wrong career, living in the wrong

0:54.9

city, in the wrong relationship, chasing the wrong hobbies, spending money on the

0:59.9

wrong things.

1:01.6

Not wrong in a moral judgment sense, but wrong as in, it's not a good fit for you.

1:08.2

But you thought you wanted it.

1:09.7

You thought you wanted that job, that degree, that house, that car, that lifestyle.

1:16.5

You thought you wanted it because it's what the people around you wanted.

1:20.8

And it's what the people around you wanted you to want.

1:25.0

They never set it outright, but you received that implicit message.

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