I think that if you were I were to try to do a teenager's day, my third period would be like,

I'm out. I'm done. I'm not putting up with one more adult who's telling me what to do or I

cannot stand that kid who is sitting next to me and I can't take it. They put up with a huge amount.

Dr. Lisa DeMore gets teenagers. She's a clinical psychologist with 30 years of experience,

working with the pressures, hormones, and emotions of teens. So if you have a teenager in your home

or if one day you will have a teenager in your home, then turn this episode up.

We very rarely with teenagers in our own homes get a very good picture of their overall mental

functioning because they are more vulnerable at home. They are more likely to express concerns.

They are more likely to fall apart and we should not generalize that to think that that's what's

happening. And I would say like usually like a huge massive majority of the time, the fact that

they can lose it at home or fall apart at home or be we be or kind of all over the map at home

is what allows them to be the sturdy, solid, reasonable human beings. They are under conditions

that are actually quite difficult. Dr. Lisa DeMore now has three books on teenagers and all of my

friends with older kids have told me that they are required reading. She's the author of Untangled

and Under Pressure and now she's written a book for teens of all genders, the emotional lives of teenagers,

raising connected, capable, and compassionate adolescents. It really wasn't planning on writing

another book. I was sort of taking a little bit of a breather, but the combined effects of

teenager suffering as they did through the pandemic and then also the cultural understanding of

what makes for mental health and how we help kids with distress. Becoming a bit off course in my

mind, I really felt like it was time for me to try to lay out what we know from the academic and

clinical side about what healthy development looks like and what actually the place of distress in

our lives is, which is actually a very important part of our lives, and to try to offer reassurance

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