What would you update that is not in the book considering today's society mentality?

Well, one thing I'd probably add more, or talk about more, because when I was younger,

you used to think these things were common sense, just stuff on like red flags, things you should look for.

I just see the same thing over and over.

I mean, I've been doing this 20 years

professionally and guys that have the biggest problems with women they can't get along with

or they're difficult or they're liars or their cheaters or whatever. They just say one thing,

they do another, just low character people is that if the dad did a good job typically she turns

out okay if she loves her dad respects her dad admires her dad because you know a lot of

times I'll ask guys about that oh yeah she's got a good relationship with her dad she loves

her dad and I say well so tell me about the family. What does, you know, does the mother run the household? Does she kind of walk all over the husband, the father? Did the daughters kind of walk? Well, yeah. So he's kind of a pusher. Yeah. And because the problem is he's having with the girl is she's kind of a tyrant. She doesn't respect him.

She belittles and berates him and kind of nasty.

It causes drama and can't talk things out calmly at all, ever.

Gives him the silent treatment, those kinds of things.

So if they grow up in a family where you punish the

other person and you let them suffer for a period of time, it's hard to work anything out.

I had a girlfriend was like that and, you know, she grew up without a dad. And if the dad's not

there to kind of, you know, peacefully mediate conflicts between you and your siblings and other people and the family,

then, you know, like, what I found is that you just get a lot of, I don't want to talk about it,

and, you know, they'll hang up on you or they'll go into another room and they literally will not talk

about it. And they just let it stew for a few days or a week or so

and because like you know when you're talking to somebody who doesn't live with a girl like that

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