What we don't teach kids about sex | Sue Jaye Johnson
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🗓️ 4 January 2018
⏱️ 7 minutes
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As parents, it's our job to teach our kids about sex. But beyond "the talk," which covers biology and reproduction, there's so much more we can say about the human experience of being in our bodies. Introducing "The Talk 2.0," Sue Jaye Johnson shows us how we can teach our children to tune in to their sensations and provide them with the language to communicate their desires and emotions -- without shutting down or numbing out.
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| 0:00.0 | This TED Talk features photojournalist and producer Sue J. Johnson, recorded live at TED Residency 2017. |
| 0:09.9 | I remember my aunt brushing my hair when I was a child. I felt this tingling in my stomach, this swelling in my belly. |
| 0:19.1 | All her attention on me, |
| 0:22.2 | just me, |
| 0:24.4 | my beautiful Aunt B, |
| 0:27.4 | stroking my hair with a fine bristled brush. |
| 0:32.0 | Do you have a memory like that that you can feel in your body right now? |
| 0:36.2 | Before language, we're all sensation. |
| 0:40.2 | As children, that's how we learn to differentiate ourselves in the world, |
| 0:41.1 | through touch. |
| 0:43.8 | Everything goes in the mouth, the hands on the skin. |
| 0:46.4 | Sensation, |
| 0:50.2 | it is the way that we first experience love. |
| 0:52.8 | It's the basis of human connection. We want our children to grow up to have healthy, intimate relationships. |
| 0:58.3 | So as parents, one of the things that we do is we teach our children about sex. |
| 1:02.2 | We have books to help us. |
| 1:03.6 | We have sex edit school. |
| 1:05.3 | For the basics, there's porn to fill in the gaps, |
| 1:08.7 | and it will fill in the gaps. |
| 1:11.0 | We teach our children the talk about bioterrorism There's porn to fill in the gaps, and it will fill in the gaps. |
| 1:14.4 | We teach our children the talk |
| 1:16.1 | about biology and mechanics, |
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