What to Say to Dismissive Replies

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

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Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education

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🗓️ 26 November 2024

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Someone brushes off their rude comments with, “It was just a joke.” Or they tell you, “Don’t take it personally,” or, “You’re too sensitive.” These comments might seem small. But they can slowly tear down your self-esteem. The good news? You don’t have to let them shake you. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple ways to respond to dismissive comments. These strategies will help you protect your self-esteem, stand your ground, and respond to dismissive comments with confidence. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Visit cozyearth.com/jefferson and use my exclusive 40% off code JEFFERSON to give the gift of luxury this holiday season. If you get a post-purchase survey, say that you heard about Cozy Earth from The Jefferson Fisher Podcast! Pre-order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Look, it was just a joke, okay? Don't take it so personally. Don't be so sensitive. Little comments like these slowly tear down your self-esteem. And on top of that, they're frustrating. So today we're going to talk about how to handle them.
0:13.3	Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher podcast, where I'm on a mission to make your next conversation the one that changes everything. If you enjoy learning tools to improve your
0:21.8	communication, I'm going to ask you to follow this podcast, and if you would, please leave a review
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0:32.6	comments. And I want to make sure and tell you that my new book, The Next Conversation, is officially
0:37.1	out for pre-order.
0:38.2	And I'll put the links down in the show notes.
0:40.2	So these are what I call dismissive comments and that they are dismissing your feelings,
0:45.5	trying to dismiss any consequence of what they said.
0:49.4	And in many ways, I want you to see these comments as them trying to control the eventual outcome.
0:58.2	Imagine somebody, imagine me, just punching you in the arm. And you go, oh, I go, that didn't hurt.
1:05.9	You ever had that happen? Maybe as a kid growing up or you have a sibling. I know I'm the oldest of four and that definitely
1:12.6	happen when you're roughhousing, you're wrestling, you do something and go, that didn't hurt. And they go,
1:17.4	what do you mean that didn't hurt? So I want you to imagine that in your mind that somebody's hit you in the arm
1:23.2	and then they tell you that didn't hurt. As if get to decide that yeah I hit you in the arm but it
1:29.4	didn't hurt so no no harm no foul right you are the one that gets to decide that and we're going to
1:37.6	talk about these techniques on each one of these and I want you to emphasize the idea that they don't get to say the outcome. They
1:47.6	don't get to say the consequence. You do. They don't get to say what hurts. You do, right?
1:53.3	You with me? All right, let's go. So first up is, I was just joking. I was just joking. It's just a
1:58.6	joke. I hear that all the time. I know that you do too.
2:01.6	When you get that dismissive comment back to you on something, I was just joking.
2:05.6	Here's what I want you to do.
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