What to Say and Do During a Meltdown

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 21 October 2025

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Summary

At the heart of Janet's parenting approach is respectful, honest communication between us and our kids beginning in infancy—which means observing and listening to kids at least as much as we talk to them. It also means walking through our own fears to accept our child's most uncomfortable feelings and broach difficult conversations. In this episode, Janet shares a parent's story about their child's 45 minute(!) meltdown, and how the parent eventually discovered what had caused it. This parent also describes helping their toddler gracefully handle a medical procedure. In both instances, this parent's embrace of respectful communication was the key to their success. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at ⁠⁠NoBadKidsCourse.com⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠JanetLansbury.com⁠⁠. Her best-selling books ⁠⁠“No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame”⁠⁠ and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available wherever books are sold. Please Support Our Sponsors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	If I get my kid a phone, I'll be able to keep in touch with them all the time.
0:02.8	We'll be on it all the time.
0:04.1	He could walk to school by himself. She could see something, she shouldn't. He could chat with grandma. Friends, trolls. They can access anything on the internet. They can access anything on the internet. So, should I give my kid a phone? Growing up with phones isn't always easy. Introducing EEE safer Sims. Sims that help moderate usage and shield harmful content on any smartphone.
0:24.2	Choose EEC for you. Growing up with phones isn't always easy. Introducing EEE safer sims. Sims that help moderate usage and shield harmful content on any smartphone. Choose EEE safer sims. Only on the UK's best network. To verify best network see EE.e.com. Right, that's it. Come on. Lights out. You've got a test tomorrow. Just two minutes. I'm about to reach the next level. It's going off now. Yeah, whatever. Let's see. Where's the app?
0:39.5	Oh, here it is.
0:41.0	What? How?
0:42.4	Oh, no. You're out. Better look next time.
0:45.1	Mom!
0:46.2	It's game over for late nights on school nights.
0:49.0	EE Wi-Fi controls help you get them off the Wi-Fi and into bed.
0:53.0	More parents are choosing EE broadband, the UK's fastest growing broadband provider.
0:58.0	To verify I see EE.com.com.uk slash claims.
1:02.6	Hi, this is Janet Lansfrey. Welcome to Unruffled.
1:07.0	Well, today I'm going to be sharing something I received. I consider it a gift from the gods.
1:13.3	It's a note from a parent in which they describe two experiences they had with their child,
1:20.4	their daughter, who's two and a half. One of them is the way this parent handled a meltdown.
1:28.0	And the other one, or the one I'm going to share first actually, is the way this parent handled
1:34.9	helping their daughter gets medical treatment that she needed, a vaccine.
1:40.9	So these are two very different situations, but they have something in common in the way this parent approached them.
1:48.0	The parent approached them with what I like to think of as respectful communication, communicating with their child as a person.
1:58.0	And maybe that sounds like something obvious to do, but we don't even always talk to
2:04.6	adults with this kind of respectful honesty and openness. And there are great rewards in doing this.
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