What to Do When Our Kids Disapprove of Us [241]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Narcissism, Christianity, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Spiritual, Christian, Self-improvement, Education, Divorce, Marriage

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2023

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

Our relationships with our kids are important to us. We raised them from little babies and have deep connections with them, but when those relationships crumble, it can be devastating. Let’s answer some difficult questions about relationships with our kids and how we can navigate through them when our children disapprove of us and our decisions.

Questions We Answer in this Episode:

“My young teenager went to live with their dad because they were upset I initiated a divorce. Will I ever be able to be close to them again?
“My ex is threatening to alienate my child. What do I do?”
“My daughter cut me off from my grandchildren. What do you recommend I do?”
“How do navigate relationships with my children when some support me and some don’t, and they are pitted against each other?”

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now.com and you're listening to the
0:09.3	Flying Free Podcast, a support resource for Women of Faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.4	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.1	Welcome to episode 241 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:27.0	One of the most heartbreaking fallout of waking up to abuse and making the excruciating decision to leave that
0:35.4	relationship is the reactions and responses of our kids and that's what we're going to be talking about today. A few weeks ago one of
0:46.1	the members of Flying Free posted this question in our private forum. Now I've
0:51.9	changed the question to make it a little more generic in order to protect this person's privacy,
0:56.4	but basically it went like this. My young teenager went to live with their dad even though the divorce agreement gives us both time with our
1:04.6	child. This child was upset with me because I divorced dad. We had always been
1:10.5	close so just the fact that this child went with their dad, who had constantly
1:15.2	picked on this child, has been hard enough.
1:18.2	I want to give this child time, but they've been gone for close to two months and I miss this child so badly.
1:24.5	Any advice or thoughts would be helpful.
1:27.6	So whenever we're faced with a dilemma like this, it's important to survey the landscape of our reality, to figure out what we can't
1:37.0	control and also what we can control, where our opportunities lie. So often it's our human nature to just plop down and give up.
1:47.3	But when we think there's nothing I can do, we feel hopeless in our body and when we feel hopeless in our body we tend to shut down
1:56.2	We aren't able to think creatively we aren't able to see any opportunities because part of us has already decided we don't have any.
2:06.5	So the first thing I recommend is to look at the facts.
2:10.7	Here are a few facts I pulled out of this post.
2:14.0	First, legally you have the right to a certain amount of custody with your child.
2:19.0	Number two, you are now divorced and this is a choice you hopefully made and like your reasons
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