What's the solution if rejection breeds obsession?

Well, obviously, you've got to understand it.

So rejection breeds obsession, what does that tell me?

If he's, how, so probably that person has been rejected and now he becomes, because

if a guy, what happens a lot lot of times especially like when breakups happen

is that if it's like a long term

relationship women typically stick around

until their feelings are gone

and then when they finally leave

they're just not that into it

and they're not feeling it

and one of the things that I you know

when guys call me and they want to get their ex

back and they're telling me, well, I didn't do this. They stopped putting their best foot forward six, eight months a year before that. And that's one of the things I always point out to him is like, that's how you really feel about this girl. Six months ago, you didn't give a damn. you had the attitude of you could take it or leave it.

But when you're the one to get. You were, you had the attitude of you

could take it or leave it. But when you're the one to get stumped and then you find out, she started seeing a guy from work. It's like she stayed with you until her feelings were gone. And then she monkey branched. And so her, she's out. And you go from not caring about the girl one way or another and all, I love to love my life.

I got to get her back.

And the reality is it wasn't that into her, but it wasn't his choice.

And so often in those situations, I am able to help the dude get her back.

But three months, six months later, he comes to the same place because everything that turned you off about her, she didn't become a different person, it's still there.

And so once they get her back, it's typically the last three to six months and boom, they dip again.

And so the best thing to help you get over is finding somebody new, getting out there and just interacting with other women, go out with your buddies and have a few beers, even if it might not feel like it, just talking to a few

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