Welcome back to this week's episode of Unlocked. We are going to kind of continue on with our self-help

vibes because that's the place I'm at in my life right now. And I'm super excited for this next

conversation. As you guys know, I don't love going into podcast overly prepared because I feel

like it takes some authenticity away from things. So I have

Taise, right? Perfect. Tais Gibson on. And I am so excited because she is the founder of the

Personal Development School, creator of integrated attachment theory and a best-selling author.

And you also have your podcast, host of the Taise Gibson podcast.

Yes.

So this, I love things like this to try to help me figure out like why I am the way that I am.

Yeah.

Because I hate not having an answer for something.

Yeah.

That may be some kind of style. But that's just, I don't know, I feel like as

an adult, it's your responsibility to like come to terms with who you are and understand who you

are. Because if you don't, unfortunately, I feel like other people end up being a casualty to your

own war, even if you

didn't intend for that to happen. I love that you said that. I am somebody who believes tremendously

in radical accountability. Like, I think we go through life, and I think it's so easy to blame your

conditioning or blame your upbringing if there were hard things. Yeah. But if you look at the group of people who constantly blame, blame, blame, blame, they stay very stuck and they don't grow. You can't be blaming people and growing at the same time. It's not possible. And so I always tell people like, hey, it's not your fault if there's hard things that are a part of your conditioning, but it is your responsibility. So I love that you said that because I'm very aligned. I hate nothing more than when you have like all these adult children, as I like to call it,

walking around and whining and complaining.

And I'm like, hey, come to terms with your crap and like fix it so you can then live a healthier life.

I may be a little harsh. No, but honestly, if you don't, I think one of the harder parts is that then your parents are running your brain. Like and yes. And I don't think that's what people want. But if you are looking at, okay, what did I get conditioned with or what is my own individual programming growing up? Then what ends up happening and not just saying for you, but like for human beings, right? It's like, well, if you didn't like that your mom did ABC or your dad did XYZ, it's going to imprint your subconscious mind. And then if you don't heal it, then like those wounds or those fears or those unmet needs, that literally runs how you're going to show up as an adult. And then you're not really making your own choices.

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