One of them was 23 and she had been very severely bulimic in her teenage years and

had been hospitalized a few times because she was going to die otherwise. And then

when she was 18 she unfortunately looked up online if it was possible to get

your breasts removed without having breast cancer and she found top surgery. And a

week later she had decided that she was a trans man and when she went to a

gender clinic, the therapist said to her, that's why you're trying to starve

yourself because you're not meant to have curves because you're really a

boy. And so she told her parents and her parents were delighted because they

had seen their daughter nearly die and they were like, yeah, yeah, if this is

going to save you, you do this. So she got her ovaries removed, her uterus

removed, she took testosterone, she was getting ready for phalloplasty which is

the most brutal surgery imaginable where they take off an enormous chunk of

either your leg or your arm and turn it into a fake dick. So she looked

online then, you know, what do I do after a hysterectomy because she still felt

terrible because they lied to her about how easy all these operations are,

hysterectomy are really tough operations. And she found all these sites of

women who had uterine cancer or, you know, that sort of thing and they were very

supportive as she started talking to them and then one day this sentence floated

into her mind and it was just how can an operation that has only done on

women turn me into an end. And it was like the whole thing, the whole past five

years just unwound and she was back and she was like, all of this was nonsense.

And I listened to her tell this story and I just sat there and I thought, oh,

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