Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Hello and welcome to love and abuse.

All the information in this podcast is meant for educational purposes only. Always secret professional for your mental health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely.

I think I'm going to talk about a couple of things today. One of them was an email that I received

a while back having to do with returning to an emotionally abusive relationship.

And her question, in a nutshell, is, is there any coming back after the abuse?

I've talked about this in several ways throughout these love and abuse episodes.

And I think I talked about it in the overwhelmed brain as well

in my other podcast.

And the answer is yes and the answer is no and the answer is maybe.

Of course, you need criteria of what a healthy relationship is to you.

You need to be aware of your relationship boundaries.

And I tell this to anyone that is either in a relationship or not, you have to have an understanding

of your relationship boundaries.

And what that means is that you have to know what is acceptable in a relationship and what is not.

You have to know this.

I know it's demanding of me to say, but I'm saying it because I want you to be aware of when something happens if that

thing that happened is a violation of your relationship boundary.

I want you to know that before you get into a relationship and if you didn't know it before

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