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Liz, welcome to the program.

Thank you very much. I appreciate it.

I'm going to the home down to the question.

I feel guilty that I didn't stop my daughter from getting a nose job when she was 21, although from the age of 15 she was asking and she she saved money and.

Liz, she put Liz, what you just said is irrational. So can we get it rational?

You can't regret not doing something you didn't have the power to do.

You didn't have the power to stop her.

So you can't feel guilty about not stopping her.

It wasn't up to you.

She was going to do whatever she was going to do no matter what you thought felt or said.

So dump the guilt.

What you can say is I feel really bad that her decision resulted in go ahead.

I mean, it's resulted in her her sense of identity and her way which you look doesn't look like her sibling just for sisters.

I five girls and a boy and that she feels she's lost.

Okay, that was one long sentence. Can you make it shorter?

Okay, I feel bad that she made a decision to have a nose job and now she.

So she feels terrible about herself.

Okay, then she'll have to work that through.

She'll have to measure herself by other than her nose for a change.

First she was upset about her nose because it wasn't pretty.

Now she's upset about her nose because it looks different.

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