What's a harsh reality that everybody needs to hear? You can become disabled unexpectedly at any point in your life.

Make sure you're taking advantage of the abilities you have while you have them. Seriously, the human

body is amazing, resilient, and beautifully intricate. It is also fragile, complicated, and fallible. Never, ever ride in a car with your feet on the dash.

Don't light those M80s in your hand. Don't dive head first into unfamiliar waters. Life is already trying to kill or maim you.

Don't give it any help.

There's something that traumatized me as a kid when we were learning about Ray Charles's life in music class. The man is famous for being a blind musician, but what I never knew until

that day was the fact that he was neither born blind, nor did he get into a freak accident

or something.

He was literally just existing one day, and suddenly his eyes stopped working.

Literally lost all ability to see anything permanently out of nowhere with absolutely nothing

he could have done to stop it or prepare for it.

It gave me a deep phobia of suddenly becoming blind that took me a while to get over.

Sometimes, people will hurt you and they won't care how you feel about it.

Yeah, I learned this through an excruciating experience with my now ex-husband.

Even now, years later, I still can't wrap my head around how he went from love to literally

not caring if I live or die.

Waking up every day during that period, I'd be okay for a split second, and then the reality

of what was happening would hit me.

I guess I was naive, but I couldn't accept that he literally didn't

care. Not everyone likes you. Some people won't like you for very arbitrary reasons, or for no reason

at all. It takes way too much of your energy trying to make people like you. Use that energy on yourself and your

loved ones. It's a life lesson I learned much later than I could have. It's a Star Trek reference,

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