What Really Turns You On? Keeping Desire Alive in LTR

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2026

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

In this workshop, I'm answering your questions about desire, attraction, turn-ons, fantasies, and sexual connection. We explore why we're attracted to certain people and experiences, how to talk about sex with a partner without creating pressure, what to do when desire changes over time, and why feeling a spark for someone else doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship. Whether you're curious about your own turn-ons, struggling to stay present during sex, or looking to deepen intimacy with a partner, this conversation will help you approach desire with more curiosity, confidence, and self-understanding. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 1:48 Understanding What Truly Turns You On 7:34 How to Talk About Sex Without Making It Awkward 12:09 How to Stay Present During Sex 18:01 Why Taking Longer Is Completely Normal 19:43 Taking a Break During Sex Without Killing the Mood 24:25 How Men Can Improve Ejaculation Control 28:31 Why Certain Things Turn You On 34:30 When Fantasy Doesn't Match Expectations 37:30 Different Turn-Ons in Relationships 41:50 Is It Normal to Feel Attraction to Someone Else? 45:54 How to Reignite Emotional Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome back to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, your go-to sexologist, helping you prioritize your
0:05.8	pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex and reminding you always stay curious. And I have some
0:11.4	huge news to start off with. I'm officially going on tour. It's called the Best Sex Ever Tour,
0:17.3	and I'm just so excited about it. First show will be right outside of Chicago on July
0:21.4	7th at Zany's Rosemont. Just go to sex withemly.com slash subscribe right now to subscribe to my
0:27.5	newsletter and we'll email you more tour info soon. You can also find the link in the show notes.
0:32.3	Okay, let's jump into the episode. Today we're sharing a previously recorded live Q&A session
0:37.4	where we talk
0:38.0	about personal desire and how to figure out what truly turns you on, which can feel
0:42.5	surprisingly complicated. But it doesn't have to be. Let's get into it. And reminder, you
0:47.4	can also watch all episodes on YouTube on the Sex with Emily channel.
0:51.4	Nothing wrong with sports, just not when I'm trying to have sex with you. As long as it's legal and it's safe, nothing's off limits, especially when it comes to your own erotic mind. How exciting is that? But I'm in no way saying that you should be turned on by threesomes, or you should be turned out by your partner being naked. Like, that might not even turn you on. We gotta avoid that you need to
1:11.9	talk energy because we all know the second someone says we need to talk, we immediately go into fear.
1:18.5	So attraction can happen even when you're deeply in love and very committed. A spark is simply
1:23.7	a nervous system response saying, I felt something, I felt a tingle.
1:30.4	Okay, so if you've been listening to this show for a while, you know I'm not about random sex toys or gimmicks.
1:34.9	I'm about tools that actually support your pleasure, your communication, and your connection.
1:39.4	Well, that's exactly why we created the Shop Sex with Emily store.
1:42.8	Everything in there is curated by me and my team,
1:45.7	and these are products I trust. I recommend to clients and would tell my friends about. I do tell my
1:50.2	friends about. It's what I talk about all the time. Whether you're exploring solo pleasure,
1:54.1	looking to reconnect with a partner, or you really just want something body safe and beginner
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