Hello and welcome to Happy Place with me Fern Cotton. Today, what really happens when you go to therapy?

You get that sort of bird's eye view on your life where you get to see that, okay, I'm doing this because of that sort of echo of the past, but it leads to this.

And then I go round around on this cycle. Therapy is the choices that you make in your life. Therapies the boundaries that you create in your life.

Therapy should make you feel uncomfortable.

I said to my therapist, I said, look, I love our sessions,

but it's really hard for me to take all of the stuff you're teaching me

and use it in everyday life.

Me, it was really important to have a black woman

because sometimes you want to just be able to talk and not feel like you have to explain.

Because I don't talk about it and I don't look at it. It's been dealt with.

You know, like all human beings, we plow. We plow through. It goes to the sides, builds up and eventually it will come in on top of us.

I wonder if a few weeks ago at the beginning of the year, you yourself that 2025 is the year you're finally going to do therapy.

But maybe you're still a bit hesitant because you're not completely sure what happens there and what it might feel like.

So today, I've pulled together parts of some Happy Place episodes that I'm hoping will help get you a clearer idea of the benefits of

therapy and in turn make you feel bold enough to send that first booking email.

I have therapy every week. It's something that I definitely don't want to miss, don't feel I could miss,

actually. It's helped me insurmountably. It's kind of hard to explain.

One of the reasons it's helped me is stuff from the past that still troubles me greatly that I need

to constantly find tools to land on some peace with. That's a big one for me. And I think we've all got these little

cycles, I guess, and habits we fall into. And mine is to be really bloody horrible to myself.

I can be a right asshole to myself internally and berate myself and fall into self-loathing.

And some of that is related to the past and some of it is just, I guess, a propensity that I've

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