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In a special episode of a millennial mind, I sat down with Nicola Adams to explore how appearance-based

compliments and body talk shape our self-worth without us realising it. In partnership with the

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A quick heads up before we start the show, there is some adult language in this episode.

Okay, here we go.

About a week ago, a bunch of our colleagues were chatting over Slack about a women-only

dating app called T. It's an app that I had never heard of.

T is kind of the inevitable landing point for something that's been happening on the internet for a while, which is, you know, call-out culture.

That's Kate Lindsay, who co-hosts I-CYMIMI Slate's podcast about internet culture.

She also writes the newsletter embedded.

I asked Kate to come in and explain tea to me,

and why women, and in this case we're talking about straight women, would use it.

It's really started as a way for women to be like,

okay, I think this guy is good.

I like where it's going.

But, you know, either through personal experience or seeing it happen anecdotally, they want to just make sure that there is, before they, you know, go all in on this guy, that there's no one who has had experiences with him knows of any, like, quote unquote, red flags.

Some version of this has popped up on the internet over and over again.

Facebook groups have, are we dating the same guy?

Thousands of TikTok videos follow cheater trackers.

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