What Message Are You Sending?
The Daily Dad
Daily Dad
4.6 • 630 Ratings
🗓️ 6 July 2021
⏱️ 4 minutes
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Summary
“Ten or twenty years from now, they won’t remember the Princess breakfast that you spent hours and hundreds of dollars arranging for the first morning of their first trip to Disneyland. It’s more likely that they’re going to remember something you can’t possibly predict. Something small, and seemingly insignificant to you right now.”
Ryan explains what your kids will actually remember.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every day to help you with your most important job being a dad. |
| 0:15.3 | These are lessons inspired by ancient philosophy, by practical wisdom, and insights from dads all over the world. |
| 0:22.8 | Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps. |
| 0:31.5 | What message are you sending? |
| 0:34.6 | Ten or 20 years from now, they won't remember the princess breakfast that you spent |
| 0:38.8 | hours and hours and hundreds of dollars arranging for their first morning, their first trip to |
| 0:44.2 | Disneyland. It's more likely that they're going to remember something you couldn't possibly predict, |
| 0:49.1 | something small and seemingly insignificant to you right now. Maybe it's the plastic wings from the flight attendant on the |
| 0:55.2 | airplane you took to California, or it was getting to order dessert from room service and watching |
| 0:59.9 | the PG-13 movie after their bedtime. They won't remember how much you spent on their bar mitzvah or |
| 1:06.0 | their Kinsenegera or their Sweet 16 party. They're going to remember that little bit of unknowing reassurance |
| 1:12.6 | you offered in the days leading up to it when they were worried that no one would come, |
| 1:16.8 | that they might screw up the dance or the speech that they had to give. |
| 1:20.9 | As we've said before, the one thing you have to be careful of as a parent are the little |
| 1:25.1 | moments, because isn't that what we remember from our own |
| 1:28.2 | childhood? The tiny gestures that speak volumes in between and inside the bigger moments that are |
| 1:33.8 | supposed to grab all the attention. Every time we lose our temper, every time we blow something off, |
| 1:39.1 | every time we forget, every time we let our own issues get in the way, we are sending a message |
| 1:43.7 | about what we think |
| 1:44.8 | of those in-between times, those small moments. And it's the wrong message, because the little |
| 1:51.0 | moments, the garbage time, that's 90% of their childhood, and it has to matter. But before you |
| 1:57.8 | get too worried, remember that this is an opportunity. If 90% of their childhood is these small moments, then every time you show up, every time you sit down next to them on the couch, |
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