Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team. No matter the challenge that you face, I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. And this episode is about what men are taught versus what marriage needs them to learn. I'm very excited about this content.

And look, you know if you're a long time listener that we really do try to cover topics

that both partners can focus on.

Like we are not about blaming one person.

Oh, it's all men or it's all women.

Because truly, in our work with couples, we do see things

that both partners can work on. And the reason we want to cover this is because even more

recently in our sessions, we've been hearing men specifically say things like, guys, like,

none of this was modeled for me. Or maybe they might say, I didn't see my

dad do this stuff. Like, I feel like I'm learning this as an adult and I even have children now

because in our work, we are helping them really look at what their patterns are, where they come from,

and then what skills they really need to practice

and master because marriage does require skills. Like this is what you really have to understand

is that a great marriage isn't just because you're too good people. You know, we see people

all the time who are hardworking, devoted, loyal, want the best for their family.

So you're a good person. And yet you can also still be missing the relational skills that are

required for marriage. Like just like any career, any profession, any hobby that requires skills,

marriage is the same way. And unfortunately,

a lot of us were not shown these skills, both in what was modeled for us, their marriage,

like your parents' marriage, but even your parents to you. And that's how we learn these

social emotional skills, primarily is in the home.

So this is so essential.

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