What's up, Queens? Welcome back to the female dating strategy, the meanest female-only podcast on the internet.

I'm your host, Patricia.

And I am Rose. And Patricia, I loved the glee. I love the revelry in your voice when you're like, we are the meanest.

Yes. Yes.

It's one of those things where, like, you know, sometimes movement starts and they have a very intense criticism against them. And then they take that for their own. Like, even impressionism, that was like kind of a swear word that was used against them in a first art gallery exhibition. And then they were like, yeah, we are impressions. Like it felt unsurious. If I'm not wrong, it was like a Vox article or something that called the subreddit, the FDS subreddit, like, really mean. And they were like, yeah, we are mean. And I was saying this to Patricia in the pre-show. I was like, listen, I have really had to embrace and this, I was so happy when I found FDS, partly because it was so mean, because as someone who comes from Minnesota, which if you're not from the United States, you don't know this, but we are known for being Minnesota nice. That's a whole thing. But it's really just like passive aggressive politeness. But it's still inbred in me, you know. And so what I've had to work on as I've, an FDS has helped me immeasurably is I've really let go of this idea of having to be nice, especially as a woman. And I've held true to the ethos that I should be kind. I ought to be kind and that's something I work on.

But fuck niceness, man.

Be as mean as you need to be because this world will take advantage.

That's exactly it.

And this exactly connects to what we want to discuss today,

which is basically rekindling the communal fire,

having everybody brought back together to the core FDS values, which are basically

about being discerning and putting yourself first. It is in a self-serving way, but you know what?

We're just regaining the balance. It's not about being mean. It's about doing for yourself what

everybody is doing for themselves, which is to take care of yourself

and to mitigate your investment into things specifically into dating, but it can also be

other things based on what you're getting back. And this is something that we've kind of been

socialized out of. A hundred percent, and it's been to our detriment. I feel like if women were

more selfish and self-serving and if

women were meaner, we would not have nearly the mortality rates that we do, especially when it

comes to because I feel like partly they've set up this artificial predator prey dynamic. That's what

patriarchy has done, right? It's set up men as the predators and women as the prey. And what has helped

achieve that throughout these years of patriarchy has been this idea that women just need to be

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