Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to 87 of the Flying Free Podcast.

I'm all by myself today so I can be a total gooney if I want.

Okay, today I want to answer a question that I hear all the time.

How do you answer your husband when he says,

just tell me what I need to do to fix this.

Well, first of all, you need to know why he's asking that question.

And to understand why he's asking that question, we need to use an analogy.

So let's say that you're in a room with him and he's sitting on a chair next to you,

kicking you in the shin every so often. You ask him to stop. And he responds to you by

sometimes ignoring you. Sometimes he says, what's the big deal?

I'm hardly doing anything.

Sometimes he says,

I'm not kicking you in the shin.

Where are you getting that crazy idea from?

Sometimes he laughs and says, you can't ever take a joke. Sometimes he yells at you and

says, you're such a nag. What's your problem? You're on my case all the time. I can't

do anything without hearing you gripe and

complain and so the kicking continues for 20 years. Follow along with me now.

At the end of 20 years you decide to stand up and leave the room.

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