Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast.

We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros,

fight smarter, and stay on the same team.

No matter the challenge that you face, I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman.

And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's.

Now, what is co-regulation and how can you effectively use it so that you don't

dysregulate each other?

And this was a highly demanded topic from people seeing our content online and us even

acting out scenarios where we disregulate each other.

And a lot of couples can see themselves in that.

And when we do sessions with couples, and this has even been showing up more and more recently,

yes, there are many different topics that couples can struggle with, you know, and be the subject of conflicts. But really an underlying theme that we

see is that they aren't recognizing when the other person is dysregulated as dysregulation.

It's happening so fast. And then they're just regulating each other further. So they're missing

opportunities to co-regulate. And you may have never even heard of that term before, right? Because a lot of

content online has focused on emotional regulation, which for many of us were learning as adults now. Maybe we

weren't equipped with those skills as kids because our parents maybe weren't great at regulating

their emotions and they either lashed out, got angry, even exploded, or some parents just shut

down, got quiet, didn't talk about their feelings.

So now as adults, many of us are strengthening that muscle of regulating our emotions,

but then add on top of that, that being in a marriage, sharing a life together, sharing a home,

what happens is that you two can very much influence

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