What's a toxic behaviour disguised as a virtue?

Mom says several people on her Facebook are angry that they were told their services weren't needed when they signed up to town's volunteer services to help folk during the crisis.

We had an amazing number of people come forward. They're mad because they want to help and do their bit.

And honestly, she realized so many of them are the ones who do charity drives and stuff like that,

just to show off how much of a hashtag good person they are,

and to have others praise them for being a hashtag good person.

The ones we know who are helping are getting on and doing it, odd picture or post,

but certainly not what these people

would be doing. This weirdly applies to the service industry as well. People will literally

throw tips at a barista to prove that they're a hashtag good person after just belittling us.

They get angry when we say at our store we can't accept tips, because how are they supposed to

get that good person fix now?

It's so weird and gross.

The opposite of this also exists.

There are people who crap on others for genuinely just trying to do the right thing,

and claim that they just do it to seem like a good person.

Especially on the internet, the terms SJW, White Knight, or Simp, have lost all meaning due to this. Supporting a person to a fault.

In other words, being an enabler, especially when they call it loyalty.

People will defend the most effed-up crap from their friends and be like,

I'm loyal. Like, no, call out your friends for being crap when they are. When people get involved in

and regulate other people's relationships. They try to act like they're helping, but they always make

it worse. Grand, romantic gestures. I teach high school and it's crazy how many times you see a kid

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