What's a tale-tale sign that someone is a selfish person?

When conversations don't feel like conversations, they are one-sided talks about what they want, their thoughts, their life, their priorities, etc.

When you are able to actually slip in a word, your words are used as transitions in their dialogue.

No matter how you format your words, they all just add to the plot of that person's story.

What you say and what you do are pawns in their game to be manipulated in a way that belittles your

experiences, your actions, your opinions, and your choices. Something I personally want to add to

this is most selfish people can't have conversations. I've noticed this with the girl I used to

fool around with. She would try to make conversation by making it about me with, what are you doing?

How was your day? But no matter what I responded with, it always got a one to two word answer.

That's cool. Interesting. That way they give you the illusion that they care when in reality they just use you when they need you.

They gladly take any favors you do for them and when asked if you could reciprocate once, they get defensive or aggressive and act like you're the selfish one for daring to expect something in return.

It doesn't make you a bad person to expect

reciprocation in a relationship with someone else, romantic or platonic. Relationships are give and take,

and it makes them healthy. It's not entitlement to expect kindness if you give kindness.

If you're the only one giving, you're being taken advantage of. And for clarification, for anyone who thinks doing something kind with the expectation

to gain something from it can be manipulative, I'm not talking about narcissism and manipulation.

I'm talking about the natural give and take in a relationship.

It's not manipulative to expect certain things out of a relationship.

Depending on the kind of a relationship, that is.

The whole reason we make relationships is because they give us something,

whether that be support, love, safety, or other advantages.

It isn't a bad thing, it's a human thing.

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