What immediately sets off alarms to a couples therapist?

When one person is entirely dependent on the other, especially at a relatively young age,

I mean financially and emotionally. These are typically young women, sometimes young men as well,

who don't work, don't have children, stay at home all day and have no friends or hobbies

outside of hanging

out with their spouse. It's very unhealthy and a huge red flag. It always ends in a painful

and messy breakup. Generally, we try to get them to find a friend, join a community, get a job or

volunteer, something to provide them with self-worth and personal fulfillment outside of their

spouse. One partner says they're seeking your services to provide them with self-worth and personal fulfilment outside of their spouse.

One partner says they're seeking your services to help them determine if they want to stay together,

and the other partner says they're seeking your services to make it so they stay together.

Then it's about highlighting the points and allowing the person who's on the fence to decide what they want,

since the other person already knows. I'm sorry to be reading about how many people experienced being the person who's on the fence to decide what they want, since the other person already knows.

I'm sorry to be reading about how many people experienced being the person who wanted to stay

together when their partner was unsure. I hope that whatever happened you found or are finding

happiness again. I saw a couple that was doing retaliatory cheating and telling each other about it.

When they got through their anger, they decided

to call a truce and make peace. With their level of emotional maturity, I doubt it lasted. I don't know

if I helped them or prolonged their suffering. It was a decision to come to counseling, so I think it

was the help they wanted. Other clients realize what they really want is divorce counseling.

What's the best way to behave civilly and minimize damage to the kids while we go our separate ways?

People who approach therapy with the idea that they must convince the therapist that they're right and their partner is wrong.

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