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Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

What If I Am The Narcissist, Not Them?!

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 11 April 2023

⏱️ 14 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

Many of us have asked ourselves, 'Am I the narcissist?' If you're questioning your own behavior, it's unlikely that you are a narcissist. However, understanding why you may feel this way and why a true narcissist would never ask this question can shed light on the situation, and that’s what I’m going to discuss in this episode. 

What you will learn in this episode:

  • How narcissists use gaslighting to flip the script and convince you that you're the narcissist.
  • The personality traits of a narcissist.
  • The process of how individuals develop narcissism.

Gaslighting can make us believe that we're the narcissist in a relationship, especially when we're in a state of freeze due to narcissistic abuse. In this episode, I'll share strategies and mindsets to avoid falling into this trap and offer guidance for handling gaslighting. To better understand the behavior of narcissists, it's also helpful to explore how they develop in childhood, particularly if they were raised as golden children, and I hope this insight into their upbringing will help you understand that you’re not the narcissist. 

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0:00.0

Welcome to the narcissistic abused and trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you, awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. I've been exactly where you are right now. And this podcast is a beacon of hope

0:23.1

for you to know that you are believed, you are seen, you are heard and you are not alone. And my hope

0:30.9

for listening to the podcast is it will help you move from post-traumatic stress to post-traumatic growth after the trauma of narcissistic abuse

0:40.1

because it is possible. You are enough and you deserve to thrive. Hi everybody and a massive

0:50.0

welcome to the narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery podcast. This is your weekly dose of

0:55.1

inspiration. My vision and goal is to help you know you're not on your own and to give you some

1:00.6

insight into how you are feeling and maybe a way out of that as well. So you don't feel alone,

1:06.1

because let's face it, it can feel really lonely going through narcissistic abuse because,

1:10.4

you know, I don't know about you,

1:11.8

but I used to get eye rolling. That look, do you know the look? The look when you start to say they're a

1:17.8

narcissist and it's almost that look of you're right, not that word again. And they're rolling their

1:23.2

eyes at you. And it makes you feel even worse. It makes you feel like you don't want to share. So straight off the bat, I want you to know you're in the right place because I hear you,

1:31.1

I see you and I believe you. So in today's episode, I want to talk to you about something that

1:37.8

I get a lot of messages about and that is if they are the narcissist. And I want to talk to you a little bit about why you

1:46.9

would feel like that. And if you just want to stop the podcast right now, if you're asking yourself

1:52.8

that, you're not. Okay. But I want to explain because I do get so many messages from people who are

1:58.5

so worried that they could be the narcissist.

2:01.9

Because very often if you start reading up about narcissistic abuse and you start to say to

2:05.7

your partner, your parent, whomever it might be, well, you're a narcissist.

2:10.0

They will turn around and say, no, I'm not.

2:12.2

You're a narcissist.

2:13.3

And that can be quite confusing for you because you're already in often a freeze response.

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