What if a devastating truth only deepened the mystery? [Rebroadcast Ep250]
This Is Actually Happening
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4.6 • 10.4K Ratings
🗓️ 8 January 2026
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
Growing up Black and queer in the South, a man finds an identity for himself through the arts and establishes a wonderful marriage with children, until one day, when his husband is late coming home, there’s a ring at the door and his entire life unravels.
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Producers: Whit Missildine, Sara Marinelli
Content/Trigger Warnings: use of a derogatory racial slur, use of a derogatory homophobic slur, mention of gun violence, mention of suicide, mental illness, drug use, drug overdose, explicit language
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| 0:09.6 | This Is Actually Happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
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| 0:26.9 | Hi listeners. |
| 0:31.8 | Today we bring you the final episode of our annual three-week winter rebroadcast series. |
| 0:36.2 | We'll return next week with all new episodes starting January 13th. |
| 0:38.1 | Today's rebroadcast episode, |
| 0:40.9 | What if a devastating truth only deepen the mystery? |
| 0:45.7 | Originally aired as episode 250 on October 11th, 2022. |
| 0:52.4 | I have never felt so utterly broken, |
| 1:00.5 | absolutely just lost out of time. It was just like everything stopped. The world stopped. And nothing made sense. |
| 1:10.0 | From Wondery, I'm Witt Misseldine. |
| 1:16.2 | You're listening to This Is Actually Happening. |
| 1:23.8 | Episode 250. |
| 1:25.9 | What if a devastating truth only deepen the mystery? When I tell people about my background, I usually give them a thumbnail sketch that I grew up a skinny, a feminine black gay boy in the South during the Reagan era, and I have the scars to prove it. |
| 2:06.6 | I was the middle child in my family. I have an older brother, 12 years older than me, and a younger sister who's about 22 months younger than me. I grew up in a loving family |
| 2:20.7 | with parents who loved each other. They were married for 50 years. My dad was retired military. |
| 2:31.3 | My mom was a stay-at-home mom. They met at church. I was raised Baptist, and that was the source later on of some angst in my life about the time that I started to realize that I was different from most of the other little boys. I just didn't know what it was. |
| 2:56.9 | I think I was about in the second or third grade, and my school was doing a production of the Wizard of Oz. |
| 3:07.9 | Of course, I grew up watching The Wizard of Oz on television, |
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