So what am I doing differently this postpartum, this birth and postpartum compared to my first time around?

I will tell you, because I've learned a thing or two or 12 that I think I had heard, you know,

like is important to focus on. But when you're a first time mom and you're excited to finally have a baby

and, you know, think about all the cute baby clothes and all the things and the nurseries and the showers and all of the things that get really exciting because you're just so looking forward to having this cute little baby.

It can be so easy to kind of put your own recovery and your own healing and how you're going to feel postpartum on the back burner.

Or just kind of like think of it second to the baby.

And while the baby is obviously so important, what I quickly learned my first time around

is that if I feel absolutely miserable, which to some extent, you know, is not abnormal

postpartum, there is absolutely a recovery period. But if I feel like I can hardly function

and I'm not sleeping very

well because that's just part of postpartum and breastfeeding is challenging and all these things

that can come up, it only makes it that much harder to enjoy those like fleeting moments with a newborn.

And I remember feeling so guilty my last postpartum, my first postpartum experience, my first birth experience,

because it was something I had looked forward to for so long. It was something that I had

prayed for for a long time that I didn't know whatever happened for me. I thought maybe it

never would. I would never experience what it's like to have a baby and like birth a baby and

you know, experience postpartum and all this things, breastfeeding, et cetera. And when it did, I was so confused why I, like,

I was like, I don't actually really, I'm not enjoying this. I'm actually like drowning. And I actually

think that's a good like reality check because I think I may have had a little bit of a when you've when

you've hoped and prayed and waited for something or wanted to have a child a child or you know

be pregnant your whole life and always you know maybe your biggest dream was to be a mom I don't think

it's that abnormal to in some ways or another kind of like romanticize the experience or idealize the

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