What Gets In The Way of Good Listening
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 15 November 2019
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
This week I had an interview with Dr. Rami Wehbi who's host of the podcast Beyond Medicine and a fabulous listener. That particular experience led me to talk about what gets in the way of good listening. I chose three dynamics of the numerous ones that are out there: making assumptions, needing to be right, and avoidance of conflict and compromise. I offer solutions or ideas of what you can do about those issues, basically other attitudes or beliefs or habits you can shift into to make your conversations more meaningful and actually productive.
The listener email is from a young woman who is a sexual abuse survivor but wasn’t believed by her family – until now. She’s asking what’s the best course for her to follow – and my most important advice to make a choice that she feels good about and doesn't re-victimize her in any way.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist out of Favell, Arkansas. |
| 0:35.9 | And I'm delighted and honored that you're here. Self-work is all about trying to reach people |
| 0:41.6 | who might be already very interested in psychological and emotional issues, |
| 0:45.9 | but also those who have been initially diagnosed with anxiety or depression or even those of |
| 0:50.7 | you who might not darken the door of a therapist office, but just be curious enough |
| 0:56.0 | to listen into a podcast. |
| 0:58.5 | As you listen today, I hope that you'll think about leaving me a rating a review on iTunes or wherever you listen |
| 1:05.1 | that gives me so much information about who you are and what you want and |
| 1:09.4 | why you're listening. So I invite you to do that and I'd be really grateful. Thanks so much. I had a great |
| 1:16.2 | interview with someone this week and he was a fabulous listener. So that experience |
| 1:21.8 | made me decide that this week's episode was going to be on three common |
| 1:26.0 | listening issues, making assumptions, needed to be right, and avoidance of conflict. |
| 1:32.6 | Isle, as usual, not only talk about the problems, but about what to do about it. |
| 1:37.6 | And our listener emailed today is from a young woman who is a sexual abuse survivor, but wasn't believed by her family until now. |
| 1:46.0 | She's asking what's the best course for her to follow and the most important message for me |
| 1:51.2 | is for her not to be re-veictimized by the experience. So welcome to the |
| 1:55.8 | Self-Works Podcast. Sit back and relax and let's talk about listening. I was interviewed last week by a man named Rami W W H B H B I and he's a doctor in fact |
| 2:19.2 | a DO in his second year of residency. I was amazed to hear that because he's also the host of the |
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