Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. I have a master's level researcher

on today's episode. She's also been through this herself and she's going to be sharing some of her personal

story. Welcome, Lisa. Thank you, Ed. It's good to be here. Before you share your story, I want to talk

about what the Bible says about cheating husbands and how the way that the church response often

causes women a spiritual crisis. And I've actually listed scriptures on this

episode. So go to BTR.org in the search bar, type in what does the Bible say about cheating husbands?

I've listed all these scriptures so you don't have to take notes. The Bible says that pornography use is adultery.

That's in Exodus 20 and Matthew 5 and 2nd Corinthians.

What the Bible says about lying, of course, thou shalt not bear false witness.

But there's a really interesting one in Psalm 1017 that says,

He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house.

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