What are the cons of being attractive? You don't know if someone likes you for you or just how you look.

They come for the looks and stay for you, I guess. Not always. That's definitely one of the downsides

of physical attractiveness. Sometimes people will think they know you, but they don't. And when

they discover that you're not just who they imagined you to be, some don't even

care who you really are. They just wanted that made-up version and are disappointed when that's

not you. This isn't an issue I have any more as an adult, likely because I know how to handle

myself professionally. But in my teens, I had a side job as a mover, and the amount of clients

who would be surprised

that I was about to graduate with honours and go to prestigious university.

It was likely a combination of being just a mover, but also being decently attractive

and very physically fit.

People project a lot of bull crap onto you, all from their own heads.

Pretty, you must be dumb. Pretty and articulate,

first they're shocked, then you're a B-word who has too much self-esteem. Shy and pretty, you must be

stuck up. Outgoing and pretty? Who do you think you are, you bossy B-word? Clearly chasing after other

women's boyfriends. Great figure, you must be a hussy.

Great skin? You've probably had work done.

Dress well. You waste your whole salary on clothes.

Too skinny? You're mentally ill. They armchair diagnose you with anorexia.

In a relationship, you're clearly a gold digger. Single? Then you're

either a hussy who is playing the field, or you're a snob who thinks you're too good for anyone.

You have to work overtime to appear friendly and ease everyone's insecurities. It's freaking exhausting.

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