Welcome to the Marriage Today podcast, and I'm Karen, and this is Jimmy, my husband.

And we have another great podcast today.

We're going to talk about the power of positive communication, which is huge.

We do our marriage conferences, wherever we go.

This is huge.

People want to know how to communicate.

Now, this comes from the book

and the conference, the seminar called Marriage on the Rock, but we're going to talk about the skills

of communication, understanding how to communicate, how to really get to the heart of communicating

with your spouse. Before we do that, we have a couple of questions from you guys.

I want to read this one to you, Karen.

My wife and I have been married for 16 years, and I still struggle with her past.

She had a one-night stand when we were dating, and it still hurts me to think about that after all these years.

I know she would change the past if she could. Why can't I get over this?

Forgiveness.

Forgiveness?

Yeah.

I mean, sometimes you just need someone to walk you through forgiveness.

Yeah.

Because if you can't forgive something that happened before they even got married,

I mean, because he's still holding her account.

She's in an account with him right now. She owes him a debt. She's done something bad and he can't get over it. So it's like

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