At their peak, affairs rarely lack imagination, nor do they lack desire, abundance of attention,

romance, and playfulness, share dreams, affection, passion, and endless curiosity. All these are

natural ingredients found in the adulterous plot. They are also ingredients of thriving relationships. It is no accident that many of the most

erotic couples lift their marital strategies directly from the infidelity playbook.

Those are words from Esther Perel. So today we are going to talk all about infidelity. Many of you have asked for a

follow up on the mini episode that I did about how to heal from us cheating, so from the role of

the person who had been unfaithful. And many of you had asked for a follow-up to look at how do we heal from being cheated on,

from the betrayal, from the side of the one who experienced the infidelity.

So that's what we're going to explore in this episode.

And the first thing that I want to just preface this conversation with is that I don't

necessarily talk about how to decide whether you should stay or go. I know for many people that

is part of the equation, but I'm going to approach this from the perspective that out of the steps that I'm about to

lay out for you, your path to whether you should stay or go will reveal itself.

This is one of the hard parts about having someone betray us, is that we are left with

the decision of, do we stay in that relationship?

Do we try and make it work if they are wanting to do that?

If they're wanting to stay and they're asking for us as the person who's been betrayed to

heal the relationship and work on it.

And it's a very challenging decision that we are faced with in those moments.

And so my approach here today is to look at how do we heal from being cheated on in a way

that will reveal the answer of whether or not we want to maintain that relationship.

And I took this approach because we can often, I see a lot of people. I've worked with a number of men and women who have been cheated on.

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