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Macy, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking my call. Thank you.

I am going to get some advice on I'm not sure if I need to get counseling or go to a therapist or something with the relationship that I'm in right now.

My previous two relationships my first one was when I was 18 and it lasted about three years and ended up being a very abusive relationship mentally and physically.

And I decided when I finally would be able to break off that relationship that I would just heal on my own set of security help.

And I found myself a few years later dating someone very similar. Not relationship lasted about two years.

How can you find yourself dating somebody similar? I mean the first time they raised a hand to you, shouldn't you be saying to yourself, loser?

I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I don't get what you're saying. Nobody finds themselves someplace for two years.

Yes, I we had a really good relationship to begin with and his father passed away about how many weeks or months into knowing him. Did he get abusive in any way?

About a year and a half.

So why did you spend six more months?

I feel like I couldn't get out of it.

Of course you could. You got out of it eventually. There was no reason you couldn't got out of it six months sooner.

So why do you think you stay around?

This is important. Why do you think you stay around?

The way you answer it is you go, I stay around because...

I stay around because I'm afraid to lose them.

But you know you can find yet another one.

There's no end of the line of guys who are crappy who you could date.

Not to worry.

There's always another one and you're only 26. What's your desperation?

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