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Melissa Radke

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🗓️ 15 January 2019

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

Johnna Hensley is someone who I immediately liked when I met her. She's super kind. She laughs at my jokes. She's easy to talk to. She's a good listener and a deep thinker. She also loves her family fiercely. Johnna and her husband Ryan have three children. One of them is special needs. She is a mother living in two different worlds right under the same roof. I wonder how she does it. I'm so excited to have Johnna on the show to find out.

Johnna Hensley is a native Texan, a writer, and a lost sinner who found hope and redemption in Jesus. She is the wife of an energetic and giving man, and a homeschooling mother to three wild and sweet little boys. Her life is nothing as she expected it would be, but finding beauty in the broken is what makes it worth living.

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Show Notes

[04:12] Johnna made a video with her son Hayden. They did a CrossFit parody.
[07:28] Johnna's son Hayden has spina bifida and he has a tracheotomy to breathe.
[07:40] He sleeps with a ventilator at night.
[09:00] Johnna and Melissa went on a hayride.
[09:58] Johnna has three boys. She took her sons to a pumpkin patch. She carried Hayden to the hayride. His issues are physical, but his mind is on point.
[15:27] At about 18 weeks, they found out there might be a problem with their baby. He had spina bifida which means the spinal cord did not close all the way. Johnna and Ryan were 24 years old. Their entire world crashed into the ground.
[19:57] We declared that this doesn't change anything and we aren't going to treat him differently.
[21:35] Johnna was against having more kids. She heard from God that what ever baby he gave her it was his glory not hers.
[23:20] She had her second son, and he was perfectly healthy. Her third was her bonus baby.
[24:54] Raising the boys is like being in two different worlds.
[27:14] They booked a Disney cruise and Hayden was sick. They didn't know what to do. Her neighbor assured her it was okay to leave Hayden and take the other kids on the cruise. She felt really guilty. Then they actually had fun.
[30:07] It's challenging for Johnna and her husband to make sure that they are doing enough for everybody.
[33:01] There can be resentment for some of the children. Sibshops helps siblings of special needs kids. There is a camp for siblings of special needs children.
[35:01] Now that Hayden is older, he is honest about how he feels about the situation.
[39:16] There was a time when I was taking things out on Ryan. Then we implemented Sunday family meetings and lay everything out so that the logistics are all on paper.
[40:32] We have a night nurse that comes in at 7 pm. It's kind of weird trying to catch up on your day when there is someone else in your home.
[42:06] It's challenging for Johnna to have other people in her home when she is trying to unwind. It's something she's still getting used to.
[42:37] Johnna and Ryan understand each other on a level that will never change. There are some things no one else will ever get.
[44:16] To keep the romance alive Johnna and Ryan also tried Date Night In which was a gift from a friend.
[46:15] Johnna goes to the school answers questions about Hayden's condition, and she is writing a book. They decided to be real honest with the kids and get it all out in the open.
[47:57] It's perfectly lovely for a child to ask Hayden his name and ask what is the story with the chair.
[49:22] Hayden has taken Johnna out of her comfort zone. She calls him the VIP.
[51:35] Mom's struggling, need to find their tribe, even if it is through a Facebook group. Special needs parents just get it.
[54:48] Being a special needs mom is like canoeing up your driveway every day while everyone else gets to drive. Sometimes you need to throw a special needs mom a paddle and help them.
[55:42] A friend inviting themselves over for game night is one of the nicest things that someone has done.
[59:54] Johnna answers Melissa's lightning round questions.

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0:00.0	Hi y'all, you're listening to ordinary people, ordinary things, with me your host, Melissa Radke,
0:06.7	the ordinariest of us all. The other day the attorney general was commenting on how sick one of our little cousins had been lately.
0:22.0	I said David she's's three. That's what three-year-olds do. They play, they throw fits, and they come on with
0:28.5	strep throat. That's like all they do. But ours didn't, he said, and he's right. Considering our children existed on Cheesets and
0:36.7	cosmic brownies, they remarkably didn't get sick very often. I think this falls under the God only gives you as much as he knows you can handle
0:46.0	file and heaven knows I was barely hanging on by a thread in those early days and so it was when I met our next
0:52.3	guest that I was completely stupefied by her life and her journey.
0:57.0	When I met Jona Hensley, A, I liked her immediately.
1:01.0	She is silly and kind and she laughs at all my jokes and you'll know that I love that.
1:06.1	She's easy to talk to and she's a good listener. She's a deep thinker and I love anyone who loves their family and she loves hers fiercely.
1:16.0	But B, how could I, a world-renowned podcaster for like four months, not been subject to this kind of life and this kind of parenting.
1:27.3	How did I not know?
1:29.3	Jana and her husband Ryan have three children.
1:32.1	One is special needs, one, one out of three. For two of her children, she plays ball and has them do chores around the house. For the other, she helps feed, she helps clean, she helps
1:47.2	carry. She's a mother living in two very different worlds right under the same roof and I don't know how you do that.
1:54.4	I don't know how you live your life being a fun, carefree, light-hearted mom of two boys
1:59.5	while also being a caregiving wheelchair pushing nurse to another. What if you can't switch hats that quick? What if two of your children suffer? Because all of your attention goes to the one that needs you the most. I don't know or understand this world of
2:13.6	Janas, but like with most things I want to, I want to ask a million
2:17.7	questions, I want to understand it better and see her perspective. And in
2:21.8	doing so I want to know how women like
2:24.3	John I like some of you are doing it because you are you're getting up every
2:28.8	day and playing mom to two very different types of children I think's remarkable, but I imagine that it must be hard.
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