Ways to Build a Resilient Family – Joe De Sena : 893
The Human Upgrade: Biohacking for Longevity & Performance
Dave Asprey
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🗓️ 19 January 2022
⏱️ 63 minutes
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IN THIS EPISODE OF THE HUMAN UPGRADE™...
… One “Tough Mudder” Joe De Sena shares tips on how you can build mental toughness and resilience within your entire family.
Over more than a decade of work, Joe De Sena built Spartan into the world’s leading endurance sports and wellness brand. He also created one of the most popular obstacle-race series in the world, Spartan Race. He’s convinced a community of more than 10 million people to voluntarily embrace the experience of “tough fitness.”
“I want you to give me the worst stuff you got,” Joe says. “The turmoil, the pain, the suffering, and [then] give me the strength I need to deal with it. Just keep it coming. And so that became the Spartan prayer, like give me the shitty days, give me the failure, because I know I'm going to become better at dealing with that.”
It’s not until you reach the edge and get through it that you realize how much you’re capable of. But does tough mean resilient? And does that level of influence translate to family dynamics? That’s the conversation we dig into specifically for parents and kids.
Joe’s always had a passion for endurance and activities that push his mental and physical limits. During the pandemic, he looked closer to home and found ways he could be a better parent. He believes how you react to challenging situations defines you and your family.
His latest book, “10 Rules for Resilience: Mental Toughness for Families,” talks about defining and creating resilience. “This book was born in 2020, while I watched as families all over the globe faced the discomforts thrust at them and realized how insanely unprepared most people are for difficulty.”
During this time in our history, the pressure, stress and unpredictability in bigger amounts than ever made clear that it was essential to develop more resilience.
Joe’s term, “True Resilience” describes a body and mind carved out of hard work, challenge, and failure. He says it takes True Resilience to approach overwhelming situations with calm and confidence, to not get rattled, anxious, or angry, and even to embrace failure, setbacks, and redirections.
It also means listening and responding with intention: “Much of your success will depend on your ability to discern what sparks enthusiasm and motivation in your child,” Joe says. “Find your kid’s flow.”
Here’s some of what you’ll find in “10 Rules for Resilience: Mental Toughness for Families:”
- Proven techniques from clinical research and experience to set the whole family up for better, more effective coping skills.
- Family activities that supplement each rule of resilience and help you put the reading material into real-life action.
- A values exercise to help your family create a solid vision statement.
- A five-step model to increase your fear IQ.
Listen on as Joe shares the benefits of training your kids in hard work, traveling as a family, and pushing yourself to the limit as a parent.
Note: Joe co-wrote “10 Rules” with Dr. Lara Pence, a clinical psychologist and Chief Mind Doc at Spartan.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to the human upgrade with Dave Asprey. |
| 0:06.0 | Formerly, Bulletproof Radio. |
| 0:11.8 | You're listening to the human upgrade with Dave Asprey. |
| 0:16.6 | Today is something that I've wanted to do for you guys a long time and it's get a little |
| 0:21.3 | bit deeper into families. |
| 0:24.3 | You know that I'm all about resilience, the whole original tagline back when I started |
| 0:28.4 | Bulletproof on the coffee it said, coffee for mission critical performance. |
| 0:33.1 | And the underlying thing there has always been resilience. |
| 0:37.3 | How do you be hard to kill, but also how do you be mentally tough? |
| 0:43.5 | So you're unflappable so that people can make fun of you whether you're in fifth grade |
| 0:49.8 | or whether you're 50 and you don't lose sleep over it. |
| 0:53.8 | And maybe you don't punch them unless they really deserve it and you chose to punch |
| 0:57.5 | them instead of you punch them because you lost control. |
| 0:59.7 | There's a difference there and I'm not advocating punching people. |
| 1:02.5 | Well, maybe there's a few people who probably actually do deserve that but we'll leave |
| 1:05.8 | that for the sociopaths later. |
| 1:09.3 | And I'm like, all right, who am I going to interview? |
| 1:11.4 | Okay. |
| 1:12.4 | At the last biohacking conference, which was the seventh. |
| 1:17.9 | At that conference, one of the really popular speakers was Joe Dessena. |
| 1:23.4 | And I asked him back. |
| 1:24.4 | And he joined our show today to talk about exactly that resilience specifically based on |
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