Hello, hello, welcome back to another episode of Water into Wine. If you have been following

along with us, we talked about red flags and friends, but now we're going to switch it up.

We're going to get a little happy. And we're talking about green flags. And basically what to

look out for when you're like, hey, I think this one's sticking out, sticking around for a long time.

And we're going to let you guys know what we think and what y'all think, actually, what green flags are.

So Grace put on her story and asked a bunch of her followers what she thinks or what they think green flags look like.

And we're just going to share with that so

go ahead yeah and i will say what's interesting about green flags is sometimes it's hard to notice

they're green when you're just so used to red it's almost like you become hazy with your vision

you're like okay everyone's out to get me and everyone doesn't like me so kelly i would also before

we read these want to hear what are your green flags i don't want you to copy anyone's answers, you know, because I know you can be kind of sneaky. Sneaky, sneaky. Yeah. So I, green flags. I think one of the biggest things I look for is independence. I love a girl. Honestly, I have a lot of good guy friends, too. I love a good friend. I don't blame in guy friends anymore. Oh, my God. I'll be on this train for a while. Honestly, we didn't talk about it. Yeah, we do. Let's keep going. But a lot of green flags, I look for it. One of them is independence. I just respect people who can go out, do their own thing, take on the world, and then come back and be like all right this is how I did it this is when you talk to this is and I'm like let's go and I want to cheer them on and I want them to cheer me on because that's that's all you always need a good like hype man you know oh I think especially and that's what okay honestly looking at people's answers, a lot of them say they celebrate you.

And I think that's something that we downplay a lot because there are so many places where you don't feel safe to like be excited. You don't want to seem like not humble. You don't want to be like, I got the job. And I'm like really proud of myself because I've done so much to work for. I graduated and I did this or I got this GPA. I dig this on this test because you don't want to be like the Debbie Downer who tells the whole class that they got an A when they got

like a C and that's honestly such a game changer when you have that friend who not only like

celebrates you but like seeks moments to celebrate you and I think that was one thing I had I was on a

phone call with a friend and she was kind of honestly, she was so real with me. He's like, Kelly, what you do is awesome. I spent like five weeks in Jordan a while ago. And for me, I don't really talk about it a lot, you know, and I just kind of live in this fast pace life. And she just like stopped me on the phone. was like that was awesome and I don't think I've ever heard that in that moment of a friend just like hyping me up for something that I think is so normal so like friends who like like really just remind you of how good you are that's a huge green flag and they are not afraid to tell you when you are bad so you listen to them because you don't feel like they're being negative because you also know they're the first person to cheer you aren't, but the first person to call you up. And they don't call you up. They call you up. They call you up. I think that's so crucial. And in those moments too, it's kind of like you are so much more apt to listen and be like, okay, you're right. I do need to do better in this because they have seen you and they've seen you at your best.

They've also seen you at your worst.

So they of anyone have the right to call you up.

Okay, the first one I want to share, and I'm going to say a quick trigger warning if you struggle with mental health.

But friends who support you no matter how bad your mental health is. And someone shared that. And that, like, honestly got me very emotional because it reminds me of one of the first moments that I realized one of my friends, Britta, was one of my best friends. And it was because I was in college and I had told her my story on, like, having, like, an eating that in high school and like I said if you knew me in high school I'm sorry if I was ever mean or like rude or annoying I was just hungry like I'm a firm believer in that like angry it's a real thing I was like wait just people were like what was your diet plan I'm like and we'll talk about body image on another episode so keep up

with us you know I think that's going to be probably the one after this or the one in the next

couple weeks but I especially struggled with that and I remember in college it's so easy for like

the puk and rally mentality to come out and I remember eating something and drinking a lot and I

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