Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical

wisdom, and insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening,

and we hope this helps. Watch what happens. We didn't know better. We were still figuring it out. We were just doing what our

parents did. We got some bad advice. In retrospect, some of the stuff we did when our kids were

younger seems baffling. Why did we treat them like they were so much older than they actually were?

Why were we so strict? Why weren't we more patient? Why did we force them to do this for that? Why didn't we listen? In her wonderful book, Good Inside, which I know I've been raving about, Dr. Becky Kennedy shares something that a mom wrote to her. I feel guilty for all those years. I punished my daughter and gave timeouts, the woman wrote. I always thought it's too late. I messed up my kids forever. But of course, as we've been talking about, it's never too late, never too late to change, never too late to repair. That mom decided she wasn't just going to feel guilty. She was going to talk to her kids about it. I told my eight-year-old that I've learned more about what kids need, and I wish I hadn't given her so many timeouts

in the moments she needed me most, the woman wrote. I saw her body soften. I really did. We hugged.

It felt really important. Well, it was important, and it does matter. We know it will matter to them

because it would matter to us if our own parents had done it. It would matter to us if they did it

now all these years later.

We would soften. We would feel seen. We would rewrite. Things could be repaired, if only a little.

Well, we can't make our parents do that. We can't change what happened then or in the early days

of our own parenting journal. But we've learned some stuff since then. We've gotten better.

And so we can repair. Nothing is messed up forever. Not if we choose to be vulnerable enough, loving enough, brave enough to address it. We can do that. We must do that. And let's watch what happens when we do. And by the way, if you haven't read Dr. Becky's book, you should. You should also listen to her wonderful episode on The Daily Stoic Podcast.

I'll be excerpting it over on Daily Dad as well.

I'll link to that in today's show notes.

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