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Alan, welcome to the program. Hi Dr Laura, thank you. How are you today?

Good, what can I help you with? My wife loves to surprise me with some things from time to time, like she books and trips,

or even something as simple as like going to dinner, and just, you know, she loves to do those things every once in a while and and she has

commented to me that she wished that I would do that sometimes that I would

surprise her with something which is a reasonable request.

So the other day, I came home and wanted to surprise her with something,

and I said, don't plan on doing anything from this time, on day because we're going to go do something fun and I haven't already scheduled and booked so she looked at her calendar. She looked at her schedule and whatnot.

Everything was looking good and then she got to the part where she's like,

oh, I have a hair appointment and it kind of created a little bit of a,

I was a little annoyed, it created a little bit of a fight, nothing major,

but I was annoyed that a hair appointment was getting in the way of something that she kind of had hinted to me over time that she wanted me to do and I later went back and

apologize and said

you know it shouldn't matter what it is Stop! Stop! Stop!

Damn it!

Stop!

Stop!

Stop the first time you hear me say stop.

Don't make me sound crazier and crazier, okay?

I cannot stand phony bullshit apologies. They're an insult

to the profound concept of taking responsibility and showing remorse.

Don't you dare ever do that again with anybody.

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