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So I have a horrible gifting experience for history with the misses.

No matter what I get, I used to feel for years, for years, that it wasn't really

appreciated. She didn't seem to like it. She brought it back. It wasn't the right one.

And it started to like corrode that experience, that when it would come and a

versory birthday, holiday, gift giving time, whatever. I'll have like a sense of dread, like,

oh, here we go again. And what I realized was one, I was totally getting it wrong, like that

wasn't her experience at all. It was me and what I was expecting back.

And that that was a mistake. First of all, it was completely contrary to the stated

purpose of the act, which was to make her happy, not me. And two, I wasn't even getting her reaction

right. So when I eventually learned this, like, everything else, it took me so many more times

and it should have to take you or any other reasonable person. I just realized that, look,

it feels good to give. I hope it makes her happy. It's not a big deal either way. And

leave it at that. I help somebody. That's a good enough itself. I leave it at that. I rarely tell

anybody who I am. If I help, I feel like it's only going to create trouble or a potential loss.

And it's not important. It's not relevant. What's relevant is that you reach out and do what you

can for people when you can. Does that send out what some people believe is karma, energy that's

going to rebound to your benefit, come back to you? I don't know and I don't care. I don't

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