In this episode, I kick off a series on bouncing back. Being resilient is the latest buzzword. But it's all another way of discussing how to recover from a setback. I have a few issues with the concept that I feel cause us all to miss what bouncing back really entails and how to effectively do it in our lives. And not just simply bounce back, but bounce back...better. A common phrase in the self-help world is, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that count, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. If you're talking about getting knocked down on the battlefield or football field, it makes sense. But in our lives, if we keep getting knocked down, just getting back up only to get knocked down again may showcase we haven't learned anything. If we are pursuing growth and evolution we will likely continue to face setbacks, but hopefully, they are at higher and higher levels and the setbacks aren't as severe. So just getting back up isn't the point, we want to learn from the knockdown and be wiser for it. Next, there are two different knockdown realities. One is when we get knocked down by someone or something. We are victimized in essence. Getting back up from this takes one perspective. But often we are knocked down by ourselves. By our own mistakes and failures. Getting back up from these takes a different type of mental power. Then also, some people have never been up to a point they want to bounce back to, as they were raised in a knocked-down level of existence. To take on this topic and these issues I've brought to you, Dr Neeta Bhushan. You'll want to hear the full story and details that make what I'm about to tell you even more profound, but when Neeta was 16 her mom died. When she was 17 her brother died. Then when she was 19 her Dad died and she became caregiver for her younger brother. She went on to have some great success or I wouldn't be talking to her now. But how the story goes will impact you. She started a successful cosmetic dentist business. She married and then divorced from an abusive marriage. She founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. And now she has a new book titled, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. If you go to thatsuckednowwhat.com Neeta has a free 44 page guide you can have. We cover deep territory in regards to what resilience and bouncing back really is and how it differs, depending on...a lot. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices