Vanessa Torre: Unmasking & rebuilding after a midlife crisis
Women & ADHD
Katy Weber
4.9 • 685 Ratings
🗓️ 10 April 2023
⏱️ 65 minutes
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Summary
Episode 132 with Vanessa Torre.
“I felt like I had no control over my chattiness. I kept googling ‛Why can’t I stop talking?’ And every single result came back with ‛Have you considered ADHD?’”
Vanessa is a writer, speaker, and coach living her best life in Phoenix, Arizona. About a year ago at the of age 48, Vanessa quit her 20+ year corporate career to pursue her creative passions full-time. She sold her house in the suburbs, moved to an apartment in downtown Phoenix, and turned her writing and editing side hustle into a full-time business.
It was during that time that she was diagnosed with ADHD and she now helps other women, particularly those late diagnosed with ADHD, who feel stuck in midlife to navigate this amazing time of growth and exploration to make huge changes that lead to a more creative and fulfilling life led with intention.
We chat about unmasking and self-acceptance after a late diagnosis and our theories as to why so many women are diagnosed during perimenopause. We also talk about the stages of a late ADHD diagnosis — including denial, curiosity, elation, grief, resentment, grit, and advocacy work. And Vanessa shares what it’s been like to date for the first time as an unmasked woman.
Website: www.vanessatorre.com
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| 1:02.8 | Once I got my diagnosis and I realized that there was an explanation for some of my behaviors, for |
| 1:10.7 | some of the things that I do. The anxiety and |
| 1:14.0 | depression that I felt like I was feeling has decreased exponentially. Hello and welcome to the |
| 1:26.0 | women and ADHD podcast. I'm your host, Katie Weber. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 45, and it completely turned my world upside down. I've been looking back at so much of my life, school, jobs, my relationships, all of it with this new lens, and it has been nothing short of overwhelming. |
| 1:46.6 | I quickly discovered I was not the only woman to have this experience, |
| 1:50.0 | and now I interview other women who, like me, discovered in adulthood they have ADHD, |
| 1:55.3 | and are finally feeling like they understand who they are and how to best lean into their strengths, both |
| 2:02.0 | professionally and personally. Okay, here we are at episode 132 in which I interview Vanessa |
| 2:09.4 | Torrey. Vanessa is a writer, speaker, and coach living her best life in Phoenix, Arizona. |
| 2:16.3 | About a year ago at the age of 48, Vanessa quit her 20-plus |
| 2:20.4 | year corporate career to pursue her creative passions full-time. She sold her house in the suburbs, |
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