VANESSA BENNETT | The Myths of Masculinity and Motherhood

Order of Man

Ryan Michler

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4.8 • 9K Ratings

🗓️ 30 September 2025

⏱️ 77 minutes

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Summary

In 1992, John Gray released, “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.” It was important work then. It is just as (if not, more so) important today. Why do we as men struggle to understand what women are thinking and saying? And, why do women struggle just as much in understanding us?

My guest today, Vanessa Bennet, author of “The Motherhood Myth,” and psychotherapist sheds some light on the reasons, including an inside look at what women are thinking and why. Today, we talk about the misunderstandings between men and women, why women aren’t interested in being with you as one of their children, why women are looking for leadership and respect from men, what is healthy womanhood and manhood, why safety is a key factor in attractiveness for women, and what it really means when a woman says, “I want a man who is vulnerable.”

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 — Intro & Costa Rica setup
02:02 — Miscommunication Between Men & Women
09:17 — Shadow Work & Shame
13:06 — Myths of Motherhood
18:07 — Finding the Middle (Pendulum Theory)
21:36 — Rupture & Repair in Relationships
30:10 — Choosing vs Needing: Desire & Partnership
33:06 — Leadership vs Dominance (What Women Want)
42:48 — Don’t Fix — Build Competence & Autonomy
50:26 — Safety & Parenting (why reliability matters)
59:43 — Preemptive Communication & Vulnerability
1:00:39 — Integrity & Follow-Through (why actions matter)

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0:00.0	In 1992, John Gray released, men are from Mars, women are from Venus.
0:05.3	It was important work then.
0:07.4	It is just as, maybe if not, more so important today.
0:11.4	Why do we as men struggle to understand what women are thinking and saying?
0:15.6	And why do women struggle just as much in understanding us?
0:19.6	My guest today, Vanessa Bennett, author of The Motherhood
0:22.0	Myth and Psychotherapist, sheds light on some of the reasons, including an inside look at what
0:27.9	women are thinking and why. Today we talk about the misunderstandings between men and women, why
0:33.9	women aren't interested in being with you as one of their children?
0:41.4	Why women are looking for leadership and respect from men?
0:44.3	What is healthy womanhood and manhood?
0:48.0	Why safety is a key factor in attractiveness for women.
0:51.6	And what it really means when a woman says, quote,
0:53.8	I want a man who is vulnerable. You're a man of action. You live life to the
0:57.0	fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly charge your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up
1:02.8	one more time, every time. You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your
1:10.6	life. This is who you strong. This is your life.
1:11.4	This is who you are.
1:12.8	This is who you will become.
1:14.4	At the end of the day, and after all isler. I'm the host and the founder of this show and this movement to reclaim and restore masculinity. Now, we've done over 1,500 podcasts at this point. And I believe as of today, we're close to 560 or 70 interviews and this is a
1:47.9	unique one this one's different because we brought Vanessa Bennett on she is a licensed
1:52.7	psychotherapist she is pretty incredible when it comes to what it means to be a woman what it
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