Validation, Bob’s Secret, and RomComs
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 20 January 2023
⏱️ 68 minutes
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00:00 Intro
00:39 Should I talk to my therapist about their approach towards therapy?
09:24 Why is it so hard to find relationally oriented therapists?
16:45 Where was Bob going when he hit a student driver?
44:57 Would clinicians suggest patients should break up?
52:12 What are Dr. Kirk & Bob's favorite RomComs?
1:01:00 How do I improve my relationship with someone that won't work on themselves?
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January 20, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob, it's that time of year where I'm trying to clean out all of my emails trying to |
| 0:07.2 | answer everyone's emails so we can start the new year anew. I'm trying to find my two-minute |
| 0:14.0 | timer. I'm actually going to use the two-minute timer for lightning round, but for me, |
| 0:19.2 | you don't need a restraint because you're not as narcissistic as I am. So I'm going to have this |
| 0:25.3 | two-minute timer and we're going to lightning round this shit. Oh, famous last word, |
| 0:29.1 | so we love it. Yep. This is the Psychology and Seattle podcast. I'm your host, Dr. |
| 0:32.8 | Kirkana. I'm a therapist and a professor. And I am your friend, Bob, from a graduate school |
| 0:37.4 | and a therapist in practice here in Seattle. Annual patron Natasha from California, good old |
| 0:42.5 | patron Natasha. She says, Hey, Kirk and Bob, I've had four sessions with my current therapist |
| 0:48.3 | and I think I like her, but I'm not quite sure about her approach, which is narrative therapy. |
| 0:54.0 | I was trying to get into my personality issues and the way I sometimes treat people |
| 0:59.9 | and she had this way of turning everything I said into a positive and it kind of frustrated me. |
| 1:06.0 | I was telling her about this time I'd wronged a coworker and nothing about what I did was nice. |
| 1:12.3 | But she narrativeized it as me persevering. She narrativeized it as you know, so she |
| 1:19.2 | said, Natasha's like, yeah, I wronged this coworker. I wasn't very nice to this person. |
| 1:23.6 | But she narrativeized it as me persevering and going for what I want. And I don't know if that's |
| 1:30.6 | a helpful approach for me. I get wanting to build myself a steam, but I feel like this is the most |
| 1:37.1 | I've ever been able to get out of a therapist being told that I'm actually great even when I do |
| 1:42.4 | things that fuck people over and hurt their feelings. I don't know if she has any other mode though, |
| 1:48.3 | if I bring it up, will she just keep doing it? Should I even be bothered by it? Bob, what do you think? |
| 1:53.9 | Well, you definitely should talk about it. I mean, imagine not talking about it. |
| 1:57.6 | But Natasha has a viable worry that the therapist might actually not have a different mode. |
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