Vague Communication Creates Upsets in Your Relationship + How to Now Be Crystal Clear: Episode 152
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 27 April 2021
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Gut check time for a few of you… just because you talk often doesn't mean you are being clear. Have you ever said to your partner out of disappointment, "I already told you multiple times"? Of course this can be frustrating to both you and your partner.
If this keeps coming up, it is possible that you are being too vague in your communication, even if you are more assertive! Have you ever said anything like this to your partner:
"I want you to help more around the house."
"I want us to work on our intimacy."
"I need to feel like you care more."
"I will do more of what I say I will"
If so, your upsets might be coming from you being too vague in your communication. In this episode, you will hear how to become crystal clear in your communications to keep common upsets from happening.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stand the same team no matter the challenge that you face. |
| 0:13.3 | I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:14.7 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:18.0 | This episode is about vague communication creates upsets in your relationship. |
| 0:23.9 | And then, of course, how to be crystal clear. |
| 0:26.8 | I'm excited for this one in particular because I used to be a vague communicator. |
| 0:30.6 | Like, I can think back to so many times where I really thought, like, no, you should get |
| 0:37.4 | what I am saying right now. I've said it six |
| 0:39.7 | times you should understand. And so I think this is going to be very insightful. And this episode |
| 0:45.9 | in particular came from observations after recent coaching sessions over the last week. We find that |
| 0:52.4 | there are themes in the sessions that we do with couples. |
| 0:55.4 | And one in particular, right? So we work with couples a lot on communication and we talk about |
| 1:00.3 | the communication personality types. And even if the partner identified and we could tell is an |
| 1:05.9 | assertive partner, meaning they are more open and willing to express themselves. There was a lot of frustration |
| 1:13.0 | between the two of them because they felt like, no, I have said it. I have told you so many times. |
| 1:18.5 | I've said it the exact same way six times. And we even said back to them, hey, that's actually |
| 1:24.1 | quite vague. And they paused and they were like, really? |
| 1:28.1 | Like I didn't realize. |
| 1:29.6 | And I said, yeah, actually, I probably am interpreting what you're saying differently than Aaron is and your partner is. |
| 1:36.4 | Like all of us could interpret what you just said in different ways, which means is still not clear enough. |
| 1:42.7 | Yeah. |
| 1:42.9 | So key takeaway is just because you say the same thing often does not mean it's actually |
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